I talk a lot about Welcoming. I thought it might be helpful to offer a glimpse about what it looks like from the inside. It’s not always comfortable. In fact, sometimes it’s nearly intolerable. The mind seems to hate pain and be desperate for relief and resolution from uncomfortable feelings. But the only peace I’ve … Read more
If you’d like, I invite you to listen to this post on Spotify. Until seven years ago, I experienced regular bouts of depression and anxiety. The anxiety sometimes bordered on panic attacks. I had been on and off antidepressants, in and out of long-term therapy, and was a recent graduate of eating-disorder rehab. On the … Read more
Last week, Vince and I attended a week-long retreat at a stunning farmhouse in Quebec, Canada, just north of the Vermont border. We were there to practice The Work of Byron Katie, led by some of my favorite facilitators and friends. On the second-to-last night the 40+ attendees were spread across the sprawling lawn and throughout the house, … Read more
This week, I finally watched “Hi Ren” thanks to my friend and web developer, Alicia. And then I watched it again, and again, and again, and again, and again. I recommend finding nine quiet minutes to watch yourself, before reading on. To me, this work is a stunning and powerful expression of healing, acceptance, and self love. So many of … Read more
Recently, I had a big, big cry over a tender subject. Though it feels vulnerable, I’m sharing it because the underlying pattern of this story sheds light on one of the most common ways I see people suffer. When I was 34 and single, I froze my eggs. At the time I had no idea what the … Read more
I started asking some questions to help her find clarity, and then realized something: She hadn’t signed up for the event, she hadn’t bought plane tickets, she hadn’t booked a hotel room. According the evidence, she was not going to the event.