“Hi Ren”: A Work of Staggering Genius

This week, I finally watched “Hi Ren” thanks to my friend and web developer, Alicia.  And then I watched it again, and again, and again, and again, and again.  I recommend finding nine quiet minutes to watch yourself, before reading on.  To me, this work is a stunning and powerful expression of healing, acceptance, and self love.   So many of … Read more

The Hardest Choice

Recently, I had a big, big cry over a tender subject.  Though it feels vulnerable, I’m sharing it because the underlying pattern of this story sheds light on one of the most common ways I see people suffer.  When I was 34 and single, I froze my eggs. At the time I had no idea what the … Read more

Nothing to Decide

I started asking some questions to help her find clarity, and then realized something: She hadn’t signed up for the event, she hadn’t bought plane tickets, she hadn’t booked a hotel room. According the evidence, she was not going to the event.

The Worst Thing Is A Feeling

Last week a group of friends gathered for New Years.  I had expected days of laughter, dance, honesty, and play, but that’s not what happened. 


Most days in Bali, my partner Vince would go out for an afternoon walk. I knew he enjoyed the exercise, alone time, and listening to music, but it quickly became clear he was also having a love affair…

Permission slip: you are allowed to be you

I Should Feel Grateful…

In the United States, Thanksgiving is just around the chronological corner.  Those who have sat around a Thanksgiving table know that at some point, someone will clink-clink-clink a glass, look warmly around the room and ask, “Alright everyone! Shall we go around and say something we’re grateful for?” Perhaps you are that someone.  Confession time. I am … Read more